January 10, 2012
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The Price of Getting Married.
Put a ring on ALL the things!I don't have any immediate plans of marriage--unless my parents arranged one for me that I'm unaware of--but I've thought about a question that's been lingering lately. Wedding rings are expensive. No doubt about it. They're artificially inflated by diamond companies. Toss along a number of silhouetted actors with classical music in a commercial and we have a recipe for one expensive wedding ring.
Four marriages later, she's doing something right.What I want to know is, do girls care how expensive a ring is? Can't we just replace overpriced wedding rings with a house? If anything, wouldn't you want an awesome honeymoon, filled with Bengal tigers, speedboats jumping through rings of fire, and being able to spar with a kangaroo?
Comments (115)
I'D BUY THAT FOR A DOLLAR!
if u like it then u shoulda put a ring on it!
I'm married and honestly I could care less about a ring. Spend the money on something logical. Yes, women like pretty and shiny things, but when it comes down to it, if she's in it for the long haul, she won't mind not having one. Hope this helped! =]
Onion rings. Works all the time.
I want engagement ring brass knuckles too
I've been through this conversation before.
1. A good one carat high clarity cut carat and color (the 4 C's of diamonds) will cost you 10k with a setting.
2. A diamond will actually appreciate on value over time after the initial drop from the seller's cut. Not that you would an engagement ring, unless maybe if you divorced but after a few years it will regain its initial and supersede it's initial price. If the world ends tomorrow and you really needed cash quick...
3. Even though it's ridiculous inflated and it costs like albino Dodo droppings, I still wouldn't put a cheap rock on my prospective fiancé's hand. :/
If they're in it for only the ring then go ahead and buy the most expensive ring and I'm sure she wont mind living out on the streets... it's an appropriate trade.
I'd like sparring with a kangaroo... but I'd go out and mine the diamond myself... then hire smiths to actually make the ring for me.
watch this go on beutyish again
I'd like a ring but nothing expensive. I'd rather use the money towards a vacation or house.
lol what Alex said.
I like ring-pops.
@Scrooge0 - good god.
I personally would be pissed if my SO bought me a ring that outrageously expensive, unless they were so absurdly rich that it would be comparable to buying a Starbucks coffee.
And I doubt I will ever be with someone that wealthy.
i honestly think every couple's different, and it'll vary with their income levels. but who doesn't like a nice ring?
A serious entry from you. I'm a little suspicious. Hehe. Why can't us girls get both or all 3? A nice ring, house, AND killer vacation.
I want my fiance to buy me the biggest and shiniest ring he could afford. I would like to know he worked hard and saved up for something special for me. And that to him it's not just some stupid present he had to begrungingly (sp?) buy for me.
@Scrooge0 - You da man! Your future fiance will be very happy
I cared more about the quality of a diamond than the size. Of course, if the man makes a substantial income he couldn't get away with getting a cheapy ring. It all depends on circumstance and of course how much the girl cares.
I'm with you on this. If I'm gonna drop that kind of money, it's going to be on the wedding or honeymoon, not on a bit of bling that could be easily lost or stolen.
@Roadlesstaken - does she know what you have in store for her?
@Scrooge0 - I think this is assuming the style is actually something worth buying. then again, seeing all the shitty jewelry that's being pushed out as "precious" and "collectable", I guess anything will sell.
The cost doesn't matter really but It's nice if it fit's your personality and his.
oh i've clearly stated i don't want an expensive ring, i would rather save that for... a nice place to live? or future family? insane wedding costs? etc. save it for the actual "marriage" part!
DOWLA STOE!
what do we get in return...lazy bjs?
I'd rather skip the expensive ring and the expensive wedding and save for a nice house or something else we can enjoy for a long time. Maybe a really huge fancy bed.
also ... i have a really strong tendency to drop/lose things.... so ... just being realistic, that is NOT a good investment for your money lol
I think it's irresponsible to waste tens of thousands of dollars on rings and weddings and other such impractical things, and I wouldn't be with someone who thought otherwise. My wife and I have simple bands and that's all. Vanity does nothing to help a marriage, and neither does debt.
If he's making huge dough, I want my girlfriends filled with jealous rage. A huge ring will do just that.
If you're trying to marry me, I don't care much for how expensive an engagement ring is, especially since it is not the ring you're wearing for the rest of your life. (Unless you just stay engaged forever and never actually get married. That's a different story.)
But no, the price of the ring doesn't matter. That whole 3-months-salary rule seems ridiculous. Think of all the C&R you can buy with that money...
Who said a ring has to be expensive? I'd probably be upset if someone had bought me a really expensive engagement ring
The whole point is that he's gone and made an investment of some money into the girl's future. He's proving he cares enough to marry her.
Not gonna lie, I would like a nice ring when i get engaged, but nothing ridiculous.
diamonds and rings are so expensive now, price has tripled within only just 7-10 years. crazy. my mom was smart to buy the diamonds early back in the early 90s when it was still alot cheaper than now and kept it in her safe for when any of us gets married. I know a few guys who is saving up for that "special mysterious someone" even though they're still single right now lol...Love is more important, material things are not.
As long as my ring isn't one that will stain my fingers green, I'll be happy.
I'd prefer to give the Amulet of Mara.
It looks just like glass 'n is more expensive 'cause it's rare? Wow like I really care! Can I ride it to work in the morning or play video games on it? Hehe just buy a glass 'n metal one with gold paint if you like the looks. It's cheap and identical! Well, hehe unless a specialist looks at it under a microscope. Personally, I'd prefer a ps6, xbox1440, or WiiUMii2oo, 'cause at least those would be valuable to me. Haha imagine all the money I could sell them for on EBay right now!! Though I wouldn't. I'd just play them with my friends 'n have fun instead!
ring just looks good but it doesn't have to be expensive.
I hate to say it, but I don't buy into that expensive engagement ring crap one bit anymore. I used to, but not anymore... If I have to buy my fiance an expensive engagement ring, then she better buy me an expensive "I'll think of something cool and pointless later" just to prove to me that she loves me, and blah blah blah, she worked hard and saved up to get me something special yada yada yada...
They need something they can show off to their girlfriends and rub it in their faces.
I don't care about the price of a ring. If I ever get married I probably won't even have a wedding because I think its a waste of money. Why spend $20,000 on something that lasts for one day?
I'm going to sell my abused liver to get my future wife a decent ring.
I would rather have a gorgeous wedding or holiday. But in reality, a beautiful house would be the best in the long term.
Also, someone once bought me a really expensive ring and I lost it! I really have never understood expensive jewelry. I think it's for people who are so incredibly rich that they have to show their status in other ways. A ring that is worth a house? I don't think I'd ever wear it for fear of losing it!
I don't agree.
A ring lasts a lifetime.
Your bangin' vacation? You can plan that ANY TIME!
A ring though? Some 10 years down the line, you're going to look at that thing and remember your promise, commitment and reason why you went into this thing in the first place. If that thing is a dingy piece of metal, the minute shit hits the fan really hard, it's definitely going to be a lot easier to let go.
Just sayin'.
The marriage and the ring goes together because it's supposed to be a reminder of your vows...in a sense. Some one is going to say "oh who cares about this little thing? It's the relationship that matters." Yeah, but that's like saying keepsakes or material goods while in relationships don't matter. And it's just not true.
The ring (in accordance with how expensive, and how hard to attain), signifies the man's willingness to part with hard earned labor, resources, etc. to give something of value to a woman. It's supposed to be done with sincerity and in earnest.
Then again, he can always skip the ring and buy me a house. But I don't see that happening.
The media hype on weddings, wedding bands, and wedding dresses ingrain in the minds of women, that the more expensive/bigger the better. I think the flamboyancy is unnecessary, but you have people tell you that this is a once in a lifetime thing and you should go all out (well, for some you do this once, I suppose). I personally think the thousands of dollars a marriage costs should be spent on more practical matters. I'm not saying you shouldn't have a ring, a dress, or a wedding, but you don't have to spend so much for them. You can celebrate your love for each other and your union without being extravagant.
hahaha i'd just like a ring, doesn't have to have a diamond or anything, just a plain one would be fine =P and i would much rather have a downpayment for a house...i'd be pretty pissed if i had a ring, and no house =P
that being said, sparkly things are nice =P but it doesn't have to be a diamond =P a fake one would make me just as happy - and probably worry me much less in case i lost it...
I think it's irresponsible to waste tens of thousands of dollars on rings and weddings and other such impractical things, and I wouldn't be with someone who thought otherwise. My wife and I have simple bands and that's all. Vanity does nothing to help a marriage, and neither does debt
Como enamorar a una chica
You already know this because I commented on Facebook, but I can't tell the difference between CZ and a real diamond so I'd be perfectly content with a cheap little fake and a super fun honeymoon instead! Haha.
I don't care how expensive it is. I would like a ring, in any way.
I'm married and guess what? I don't have a ring. In fact our marriage ceremony only had us, a witness, and the person marrying us.
What did I get for it? nothin lol. So no not all girls care for expensive rings. I never want a ring actually. I have funky fingers and would feel terrible if it fell off.
eh glitter will do for me. but then again, diamonds are pretty~ but i have fat fingers so I don't like rings on my finger...lol (is that why im still single?) LMAO!
either way I don't really care about the ring that much... I'd much rather we be living comfortably than go into debt to spend a lot of money on a ring...
today a lady was crying to me about how much jewelry she got robbed for (that her husband bought for her), like probably a million dollar's worth (that's what she said) and how she needs to rebuild her jewelry collection...and crying and crying and crying...I didn't know what to say to comfort her, so finally I said..."AT LEAST YOU STILL HAVE YOUR HUSBAND?"
I told my bf I need a "home" before he ever thinks of proposing, so there goes that. What's the point of getting married if you don't have your own place to live in? You already know how much I hate diamonds and jewelry, working in the business. I think it's just because I see it every day and everyone's like oooh ahhhh, I'm just over it. I tell my customers get what you can afford and you can always upgrade later. I see people in debt every day, buying things or lusting over overpriced things they don't need. If you can afford it, ball out and make it rain; but if you can't afford it, a diamond shouldn't be the ultimate measurement of a man's love.
The BF and I have had this sort of discussion before, and I made it clear that I would actually prefer a relatively cheap ring. There are so many practical things you could be doing with that money, it just seems silly to blow it on some stupid rock. I don't even care if it's a real diamond or not. All I want is something I can show off to other people when I tell them I'm taken by a great guy.
My fiance and I are getting married in March. We found a nice set online that is sterling silver and cubic zirconia (spelling?). It came out to about $90 with the shipping and stuff. I love it, its not how expensive the ring is, its the meaning behind it.
I prefer not to have a ring that looks like it came out of a kid's candy machine, but I wouldn't make him go get me the biggest rock in the world. Something that's tasteful and thoughtful would be ideal.
I would choose that honeymoon.
@Scrooge0 - have you ever tried to sell a diamond? A journalist did, and it was a poor investment. You get less return than on the money market.
I would rather have a fantastic honeymoon.
@Scrooge0 - Hahaha funny, I remember this conversation at NYE
I STILL wouldn't really mind if it was more of a symbolic ring... I mean, if my fiancé (that concept alone is mindboggling) isn't mad rich and gets me a nice, decently-priced ring I'd be happy, and you know, we could spend that money on a trip together or something... I think that'd be more worthwhile than spending hard-earned cash on something I'd probably accidentally drop into a toilet, knowing me....
@SweetNGuilty - Howdy. Thankfully I haven't had the displeasure of having to sell a diamond ring. I would imagine selling a diamond would be like selling any precious stone or metal like gold. It depends on the buyer and would have to go through certain official channels. I.e. you cant just sell it to anyone on the street. No one will buy a gold bar from you unless there is verification etc. And a pawn shop will swindle you in selling for a low price.
Here in New York we have an entire diamond district on 47th street that buys and sells exclusively diamonds and they will happily appraise and buy diamonds or other stones. This is a highly regulated business. Obviously a lot of haggling will be required but with literally hundreds of stores there will be competition to get you a market value. To be clear, you will not make significant amounts of money from your diamond because the trade is an artificially regulated business. Diamonds are NOT rare, rather companies like De Beers actually buy rough diamonds in bulk and keep them stored away just to keep market prices high. But since market access to these diamonds is cut off, the market price of diamonds in the open remains high. If you buy a diamond ring today and sell it tomorrow, you will take a loss because Tiffanys will mark up the ring to get their cut. But if you keep it for a few years and then sell it, you will make back what you paid for it plus a bit more. Diamonds are not a good investment because unlike gold they aren't traded on the commodity market intensely. However diamonds retain value very well. They ate not like cars that lose value every year or other products. What I am saying is if you buy a diamond ring for your girl, you can rest assured that she will have a 10k rock on her hand that actually is worth 10k.
Whew that was long
@nimbusthedragon - I know it's a complete waste of money and it's stupid and inflated but I feel like in life there's things you should haggle and compromise and there's things you should spend real money on - marriage, family, and safety/health. I plan on getting married once I one person and never go back. Esp for guys, we are all unconsciously knowing we have to buy a ring and a house someday so we are all saving for it anyways.
Expensive rings are impractical. It's definitely about quality/size and knowing a good jeweler who can give you those things without spending too much. Not gonna lie though, I'd be pissed if my ring came from Zales/Jared/Kay's/the mall.
Rings get the ladies commenting!
@Scrooge0 - I'm not saying I, as a lady, wouldn't TOTALLY LOVE A F*CKING DIAMOND RING HOLY CRAP, but you know... I try to stay modest in my expectations, bwahahaha. In short, I respect your noble sentiments. It's a rare thing these days so more power to you.
My husband spent under $500 total for my engagement and wedding ring. We had a very simple wedding and a cheap honeymoon.
You just need to find the right girl. Not all of us care about materialistic things.
@hizzoMYnizzo - my husband tells me he wants in return, beautiful children and a car that I have never even heard of "Koenigsegg ccxr"...whatever the heck that car is..."Koenigsegg"...
@fLiPgUy31O - lol
i love children but just watching the women go through pain during, while, and after pregnancy is scary..."baby ripping out you know where"...um, "buy me a mansion while you're at it (shopping for a ring)" lol just playin' hahahahaha lol =P ... but then i rather use that money for the baby and diapers later though...hmmmm (sorry about the graphic details lol)
I'd rather find a chick who could go without a ring. Or really even a marriage.
If marriage ended with a spar with a kangaroo, I'd be at least twice married by now. But I'm hopelessly finding the right guy to settle with. Ans I've also had 5 bottles of sake.
I want it to be HUGE! (TWSS) but in all seriousness, I don't want to break bank, but I a sufficient three carats doesn't hurt.
@Scrooge0 - hey, thanks for your detailed reply! I'm glad that haven't had the pleasure to sell a diamond and hopefully you never will. I thought for the longest time that diamonds would be a good investment, but not anymore since I read that article. This journalist didn't try to sell a Tiffany diamond ring back to the store or soon after he got rejected. He bought 2 diamonds of different sizes and clarity as an investment and kept them for 10 or 20 years before trying to sell them. He didn't buy rings but pure clear cut diamonds, certificated by many institutions. He went to different shops and places where they buy diamonds. What he found out was that the price was indeed higher than the initial price. But if you take inflation into account, and compare the ret. urn to the return of a bond rated AAA, he made a loss. The small diamond even didn't get the initial price back when he subtracted only the inflation.
One could argue though, that it's the price you pay for being able to look at it and hold it when you feel like to.
My engagement ring is perfect and beautiful.
It's not expensive at all, either. I'm not into flashy, big rings or jewelry for that matter. So when my boyfriend proposed with the ring, I was so happy! Mainly because he knows me so well, and knew what I would like. 
It's just a small diamond and didn't cost more than 200 dollars, not much over 100 if I'm correct.
We're also going to have a nice small wedding.
Though, our honeymoon is going to be fantastic! We're going to be spending it in Ireland. He's picking the place, so it's going to be a huge surprise for me. I just know it's going to be in Ireland. xD I'm really looking forward to it. 
I didn't want an expensive ring from my husband. He ended up spending an arm and a leg anyway, but that was his choice. I would have been happy with a $50 ring from Walmart or something. I prefer saving for more important things. I also spent no more than $600 on the wedding & honeymoon combined, whereas most people spend at least 10 times more than that...if not more! Ridiculous!
fuck diamonds. just invest in gold nigga - hahaha.
it's all overrated.
My husband never gave me an engagement ring and he, a few months ago told me he'd like to get me a diamond ring. I told him to save (for an expensive several thousand dollar one) and we'd put a down payment on a house. I like your idea of a house. Either that or a car, something that we would need. For me, spend the money that a honey moon would take and put that towards the house too. Our wedding bands cost us a total of 300 for both.
It's different for each person, but for those who care I think it should depend on how much your s.o. makes, which is why the popular benchmark is 3 months salary. I mean if he's making 2k a month and you're expecting a 20k ring, your expectations are out of whack imo. To me, if you're in love with someone and you want to spend the rest of your life with that person through better and worse, investing 3 months salary into a symbol of your commitment to her doesn't seem to be asking for too much. And if you're going into debt to get a ring, that's financially irresponsible and wouldn't impress me or win me over at all. I'd rather know my husband saved long enough and planned out how to pay for the ring and still be able to help me pay for a home and and be secure for our future. If he had to save for several years to do that I could wait. That's how I know he wants to make it work for the long haul!
I've already had this conversation with my s.o. and we're on the same page so I'm happy, lolll.
And guys act like girls just get the ring and guys don't get a fair shake. We have to carry babies for 9 months each, then push out and raise your offspring, mutually help pay for the mortgage and other bills, cook/clean and still try to look good for you! And we buy you presents too, or at least I will for mine. If he puts the down payment on the house, he's getting a car or something he really wants from me, haha.
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