August 2, 2012
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Hey, Shawty!
Does size matter? No, I'm not talking about a man's junk (mostly). I'm referring to height. It's something that most in the dating scene pay attention to after the face, but place little importance on it.
You must be this tall to ride.I'm 5'9, which is average for American men, and Godzilla for Asians. So I find it odd seeing an extremely tall woman with a shorter man. It's like Megan Fox's thumb, it just looks completely out of place..like a sore thumb (hiyoo!). Sure, it seems a little silly when you think about it. How can something as seemingly trivial as a few inches of height (or lack thereof) matter so much?
But should it really matter?
Which is the "odd" couple?I recently viewed a PBS show (there's only so much Summer Olympics I can watch) called, "Secret of the Sexes" researching women's attraction to men found a direct correlation to a man's height and the number of women attracted to that man. There are a number of woman that prefer taller men. Every person is unique, and has different preferences. I am wondering, what is the ideal height difference between a man and woman? But to some girls I've spoken to, it says much about the guy, and for that case the woman.
Personally, I couldn't date anyone more than 4 inches taller than me. I'd need a stepping stool or would have to saw off her legs just to kiss her. Or imagine her with heels! She'd dunk over me with ease. No thanks.
Does height matter to you when dating?
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Nope. I've dated someone 3 inches shorter than me. Height seems so stupid to be concerned over.
It's not a big concern for me since I'm somewhat tall (5'10'' almost 5'11''). Dating a girl shorter than me wouldn't be a problem. Dating a girl taller than me would be different, but if she's dope, who cares.
As a woman who is 5'9 I've heard "If only you were shorter" many times, the whole height preference thing goes both ways.
I could care less about height, I briefly dated a very nice man who was 4'9.
I'm 5'10 and I've dated someone 5'11...closer to 6ft. When she wore heels she was fucking gigantic and I loved it. I felt like I was King Kong climbing the Empire State building.
My family will make fun of the guy if he was shorter than 5'10".
I would usually go for girls no more than an inch taller than me (I'm 5'6") or shorter. I mean, I know a few couples where the guy is shorter than the girl, but they don't necessarily care.
I'm 5'3". Every guy I've been with has been taller than me so height has never been an issue.
It does kind of matter. I prefer guys closer to 5'11 however my standards have gone by the wayside on height as of late.
I'd like a guy who was my height or taller. But height never seemed like a factor to determine if I'm attracted to a guy or not. I'm 5'5 and my husband is shorter than me by an inch or two. I do however, know a few girls who are barely even 5' and they say that the guy MUST BE at least 5'9" for them to even consider dating them. So you're in luck. But be warned, those girls are super shallow and bitchy, have fun.
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Many girls I've talked to say they prefer a taller guy. Note that prefer doesn't mean deal breaker. I'm around 5'11 and would prefer to have a girl at 5'8 or 5'9 but heights not that important to me.
I used to think it did when I was younger. But I'm 5'10" so finding a guy taller than me isn't that easy. I always date guys 2-3 inches shorter than me at least. I thought it would be awkward dancing and taking pictures and stuff like that, but it isn't. The only thing I have an issue with is that they CANNOT be skinnier than me. haha.
I'd just like him to be taller than me if I have my heels on. In the end, if they're a good cuddler, I'm game.
@mr_jin_tonic - That's a nice way of putting it.
Size dun matter when you horizontal!
@behindthedimples - So as long as the person is a good "cuddler" he's got a chance? That's some high standards you got there.
@cbr600 - Actually it does. Have you ever had to tangle with someone whose legs are hella long? It's like a puzzle with a prize at the end.
My mom used to worry herself sick because I'm 5'8" and she's like "Boys won't want to marry you, you threaten their masculinity, you have to date someone at least 6' tall so you can wear heels!"
My boyfriend is 6'3" though, and she was overjoyed. I've definitely had guys tell me "... maybe if you were shorter, I would".
Would what, I wonder?
@mr_jin_tonic - heyyyyy now! Don't judge me! Hahahahaha
Something I've noticed about really tall guys is that they tend to physically hover over the object of their affection. I find that creepy. I personally, at a height of 5'7" have only ever been with guys that were around my height.
@Gidget_PennyWhistle - wow...a whole foot difference is huge though!
@mr_jin_tonic - She could dunk over me....
@wallflower_12 - how tall are you?
@ShimmerBodyCream - @fLiPgUy31O - I think it's okay for a dude to be much taller..but not the other way around.
@laytexduckie - Thank goodness most girls are shorter than 5'5....
@heart_leigh - luckyyyy!
@eatdrinkandbemaryy - 5'11? You'll have difficulty with most Asian dudes!
@QueenMe - Nooooo! DO NOT WANT!
@simpleFool - The selection pool for you is much greater at 5'11!
@MillySonka - THE WEATHER UP THERE IS NICE, ISN'T IT?!
@behindthedimples - cuddle ALL the things!
@cbr600 - AWW YEAH!
@bittersweetromantic - they would...ask you to help put up their new roofing and siding!
@angelwingfive - Look down on the dude? Odd, no?
@CaKaLusa - You betcha! The past 3 girlfriends were all shorter than 5'2". Also, can you spare a few inches for me?
@CaKaLusa - *spits* Well, at least it's not raining!
@laytexduckie - I'll need all I can get! :p
@MillySonka - HEY! *rubs head into your knees*
@CaKaLusa - 5'5.75"
if she can beat you one on one...shes too tall for you bro!
I would like to say that height doesn't matter for me, but that's really easy when almost EVERY guy is taller than me. I'm exactly 5 feet (and 3/4 inches, IT COUNTS) Sooo, honestly, I don't think I could easily see myself with a dude shorter than me. But I'm not saying it's impossible. I just haven't really met many. The sad truth is though, most girls want a guy that is taller than them. And it's only for appearance's sake. Height has no bearing on the person's personality. Also, most guys don't really want to date a taller girl, it's something about their ego, and the image of a girl towering over them.
At 6'0" I've almost never had that problem with Asian girls.
I only date guys a lot taller than me. I would never, ever date a guy my height or shorter. Of course, I'm only 5' even, so I have never even met a guy shorter than me. hahaha I don't like them too tall though, 5'9" would almost be too tall to me.
I was REALLY short in school and I got teased and bullied for it. And my head was just the right size for a certain kind of abuse I don't like to think about right now.
In any case, looking at the photos above. As for the guy talking to the taller woman ? I'm the person snapping a photo right behind her.
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It's not that important. I usually pay more attention to their weight and how they look, like their eyes and smile. It tells you lots about them.
I admit, it does matter to me to an extent. I like my guy taller than me, but not necessarily godzlla.
In the past I've actually been told by women that I was too tall. I'm 6'6", my wife is 5'2". I always tell her she better hope I shrink first.
i used to not care~ would like someone that's still taller than me once I have heels on..so i dont have to bend over to hold their hand like my first ex..LOL that hurt my back
I'm about 5'9" as well, so anything within a few inches from my height is good.
Height isn't that important, but I don't think I could date someone who is shorter (I'm 5'3) or extremely tall. If they are too tall that could be awkward. I don't want to stand on a stool to kiss someone. Average height is fine with me since I am very short and rarely wear heels. I'd say 5'5 to 6'0 would be ideal.
yes it does. i am slightly turned off by men shorter than me. likewise, i'd prefer he wasn't so much taller than me that i can only see his lower chest at eye level. most men fall into the latter category... -.-
Height is actually very important to girls...just not directly. (Though for some it is....some girls (and guys too...but less so) will say "I can't date anyone under ____ "). But the reason height (and looks) is important to girls is that it indirectly affects their perception of that guy. First off, height affects a guys "looks". Take a good looking guy that is 5'6". Then take that exact face and put it on a 6'2" body. The tall guy will not only get way more girls but he'd actually be rated as "better looking".
Now that a guy is better looking...it then affects the girl's perception of his other attributes. They might think he is funnier, cooler, have a better personality, etc. Thus when asked "What is the most important characteristic in a guy?" They honestly answer sense of humor, personality, sensitivity, etc etc....without realizing how much of that was influenced by the guys looks (or job/money).
Are you sure you're 5'9? I remember you being shorter.
I don't mind either way.
Small girls are cute and I envy anyone short anyway.
And tall girls are just kinda sexy (too much influance by computer game Amazons
) but the chances of someone being female and taller than me is quite low since i'm 6'4 -_-
The shorter the person the more awkward hugging is and also you get the loom factor which is never comfortable for either party involved.
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I read somewhere that the ideal height difference is 4 inches, if both are comfortable with their height.
I couldn't date anyone shorter than me.
my husband said his ex was taller than him and he hated it. he's like...5'7 maybe? i dunno...i'm 5'2 so being taller than a guy hasn't really ever mattered....except that one time.....hahahahahahah
anyways. i dunno if it really makes a difference as far as height goes. i wouldn't say i'm more attracted to tall guys....but a little below average (like 5'7) to average is perfect. i don't want to be all awkward like hayden whatsherface and her super tall boyfriend.
I'm 5'3" on a tall day, so for me, guys are usually at least my height if not taller. If not waaaaay taller. I went with a friend to a wedding he was 6'5" and wearing heels I couldn't even reach his shoulder!
Yes height does matter! I am 5'1 and refuse to date anyone shorter. I like really tall men because I'm so short.
@CaKaLusa - Hrmm not really? A lot of my Asian guy friends are about that height.
@CaKaLusa - 5'9 is pretty average for Asian guys nowadays.
I'm 5'3.5" and at first, the height thing was the most difficult to get over when I met my husband. He's not even 5'5" I'd say with shoes he's about there. So there is usually an inch difference. I had to practically stop wearing heals all together, not because I was uncomfortable but because he was.
I must say, its incredible to be eye to eye, for our arms to fall to the same spot when we hold hands and our stride is always in sink when we walk. I love the closeness is height now. I wouldn't have it any other way!
I find them both funny tbh. I like men a little taller than me, but not too tall. Not too muscular either. I'd be so scared with Klitschko in the bed. Not because I think he'd hurt me on purpose, but what if someone like that loses control for a second? I like to be able to 'defend' myself and measure up to a certain degree.
I'm 5'4 I think 5'8 would be a good height. Of course I can make exceptions, but a little taller than me and an 'average' figure is what I feel most attracted to.
I'm 5"3 and dated someone 6'2". I didn't even notice that it was a issue. I married a man who is 5"11 and noticed after the fact that it wasnt a struggle for me to kiss him
With my friends and family I've talked to, it seems the men care more about the height issue than the girls. I don't think the guys like to look shorter, because maybe they feel less masculine or in control or something. Not sure. My brother in law won't date anyone over 5'3" (he's 5'8") and my husband complains when I wear heels (I'm 5'7" and he's 5'9"). 3 of the 5 guys I've dated in my life were 5'7" or under and I didn't mind. It made me feel like a model to be taller than my guy. Though I kind of like being shorter too. Makes dancing easier.
Former height bigot, right here. But I've wavered away from my former "taller than me even when I'm in heels" strict stance. Lowest I'll go/have gone is an inch shorter.
Girls that prefer taller guys often like the sense of security it brings. Personally, if you tower TOO much over me...it induces uneasiness, not peaceful protection. And, logistically speaking, it can be awkward if too much of a height difference either way. I also know short guys who prefer taller women. TO EACH THEIR OWN.
It matters to a certain extent. I'm 5'7 1/2", and while I don't mind if a guy is a bit shorter than me (2 inches or so), I do not want to date someone who is short enough to be eye-level with my breasts. I know from experience that it makes for really awkward slow-dancing. But I think most shorter guys are turned off by my height anyway, so it's never been much of an issue.
What has been an issue is that taller guys tend to prefer really tiny girls. The guy I am crushing on now is 6'4". Pretty much every girl he's dated has been about 5'2". I thought maybe he'd like it that he wouldn't have to bend down as far to kiss me, but apparently he just doesn't seem to be attracted to women who reach past his solar plexus. And I've met plenty of other tall guys like that, too.
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I think you already know my stance on this. Since I love to burst your bubble, you are by no means tall for an Asian guy.
Yup, yup! I'm 5'2 and very discriminating when short men hits on me.. I need them to be at least 5 inches taller than me!
I'm 5'5. Which is pretty short. I don't think I could date a girl much taller than me...or even taller than me at all.
While I dislike that it was a factor, it really was. It's shallow, but I had a hard time feeling physically attracted to guys who were not at least my height. I'm almost 5'7", not too tall, so it was rare that I was pursued by someone shorter anyway.
It's always been kind of a fantasy of mine to hook up with a gal who's taller than I am, just once. Alas. Beyond that, height means very little to me.
I have no problem with height and besides everyone is usually taller than me anyhow. Lol
I prefer him to be taller than me.
I'm pretty short (5 feet) so it would be preferable that a guy is taller.
I'm 5'3 so anyone shorter than that...will be problematic (though I think it's super rare for males to be shorter than 5'2 or so unless you were born a midget)
I definitely agree that the taller woman shorter man pairing is much more strange than the shorter woman taller man pairing (though in your picture that blonde lady looks like a giant..or the photo has been retouched).
I'm 5'2" so it would have been hard for me to find someone shorter. Actually, there have been shorter guys that I was interested in, but that was in school and some of them were also a little younger. My husband is 6'2.
Since when did 5'9" become average for men in the United States. Every 'knowing your body' book I read during puberty said it was 5'6-5'7". Men in this country are pretty short if you ask me compared to like men across the pond.
@ninetailedevee -
The average height for a full-grown male in the USA is around 5'10 but this collectively includes Asian-Americans and Latino-Americans, who generally tend to be shorter than Caucasians bring down the average.
The average height among just White-Americans is more around 5'11-ish. I am assuming your health textbook saying 5'6 was average for male was in middle-school? Guys can grow into their 20's.
Also, I do not think 5'9 is "godzilla" for Asians- atleast not in Northern Asian countries like S.Korea, Japan, or Northern parts of China. It's pretty average in Northeast Asia. It's considered tall for Southeast Asians, but there is a correlation of if your ancestors come from a country that's further away from the Equator, the taller they usually are. Hence why cold countries like Scandinavia are usually taller than Southern Europeans... and also why Koreans and Japanese tend to be taller than Filipinos or Vietnamese.
About your question, I know that in Korean society, height is VERY important. Most girls place height as one of the top things they look at in a guy (along with money, educ degrees, status). I am guessing it's pretty similar in nearby Asian countries too? In addition, I think height really does matter. A lot of people have a harder time taking a shorter person seriously than a taller one. With height comes an aura of authority and respect imo. More attractive to the opposite sex as well. I am 5'11 but I wish I was 6'2 or atleast be able to say I hit the 6' mark.
I'm 5'8" and I always appreciated someone who is taller.. Married someone who is 5'9".. Perfect for hugging and kissing. Don't understand these male giants marrying these tiny, tiny girls???
5'9" is perfect..
Yes. I won't even be attracted to a short man and attractiveness is vital in a relationship. Or to initiate. And I'm five feet even.
I have two rules; dont date girls I cant carry, dont date girls that are heigher than me with heels. What is there to say? We are men!
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it shouldn't matter. but it really does.
Hypocritical a little?
You say that you shouldn't pay attention to something so trivial as height yet on a side note you observe that you yourself could not date a woman who is more than 4 inches taller than you? I think you loose all credibility when you make such a statement.
Everyone has preferences and I think there is little point to your little piece here.
My only regret in life is not dating a midget. He would've been the perfect height for an activity I very much enjoy.....
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@heart_leigh - so your saying you won't date guys shorter than you.
I never knew that about Megan Fox's thumb!
And yes, I totally know what you are talking about. I see super fugly tall guys with hot girls all the damn time. Girls will be attracted to tall guys no matter who/what/how they are. If you are tall, you can be a beater, rapist, homeless and you'd get play.
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2-5 inches taller!
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