August 31, 2003

  • The most accurate test? maybe






    Who You Are

    You're loved, and for good reasons
    You're a man who really enjoys life. You have an insatiable curiosity and always are fiddling or studying things somehow. You refuse to settle long-term for a boring job or doing something just because it's expected of you. Life should be "balanced" with plenty of time for fun, spontaneity, and relaxation! You try to avoid scheduling every minute of your day and instead prefer a more informal and "go with the flow" approach. Attracting friends has never been a problem because of your natural charisma and wit. You believe in living life in the here and now, saying what you feel, and shaking things up if life gets boring.


    What's dating all about to you?
    Falling in love is a spiritual experience for you. A truly loving relationship helps bring meaning to your life. You try hard to make your date feel comfortable and have a good time. You're good at anticipating what other people need and giving it to them. But inside, you're usually on an emotional roller coaster. You don't want to reject nice women, but also take it very personally if you're the one rejected.

    Although your compassion for women is a very attractive quality, your focus on her can get in the way of getting what you want and need. It's crucial to find a way to "go with the flow" in dating as you already do in other parts of your life.


    Here's how you compare with other men your age 





    How unique is your type?
    Your personality profile is similar to a number of men your age. Looking at over 10,000 men who have taken the test, about 31.8% (or 1 in 3 men) have very similar beliefs, values, and habits. Of course, the way these qualities are expressed in you is what makes you so unique.

    How many other men have personalities like you?


    Quirks women notice
    Like all men, you have your strengths as well as your quirks and shortcomings. Ultimately, you want to find someone who will love and accept you "warts and all." Though you have lots of friends, it's important to have at least one person who understands.



    • You won't be too bothered by the fact that your partner always has multiple projects and hobbies going on with few ever finished.
    • At times you can get so caught up in a conversation that you talk more (and louder) than most people.
    Do women like your type?
    Notice that 35% of women are generally attracted to your personality type. 10% say they are VERY attracted. With the millions of people on Match.com, that translates into lots of potential matches.

    How many women are attracted to your type?





    Who You're Looking For

    She'll be an enigma
    You're looking for a very balanced woman. She'll have clear goals in life without being a dreamer. You'll both enjoy going out with friends but also love spending quiet times together. She'll manage to balance an objective and rational side with a very compassionate and caring side. On top of that, she'll be a fun and free spirit but still do what she promises and show up on time. Sound too good to be true? Women who are truly balanced like this are rare, but do exist and would be an excellent fit for you.

    Overall, it's important for you to be with someone who is almost always cheerful and has an optimistic outlook on life. The ideal person you're seeking shares a number of positive qualities with you, including:



    • You both share a cheerful and optimistic outlook on life.
    Here's how you compare to your "ideal" partner


     


    Number of women your type
    Women with the exact type of personality you prefer are rare gems. Looking at over 10,000 women who have taken this test, only 6% (or 1 in 17 women) have the exact combination of similarities and contrasts in personality you find extremely appealing.

    However, there's a larger group, 22% (or 1 in 5 women), who have most, but not all, of the qualities and habits you like. These subgroups are charted below.

    About two-thirds (67%) of the women have at least some of the traits you find attractive.

    But you'd have a negative reaction to 33% (or 1 in 3 women), who have some or many of the characteristics you clearly dislike.

    How many women are your "ideal" type?

    Finding someone like you
    You want to share your life with someone who has the same values, goals, and style you have. Research has shown that couples who have more in common tend to stay together longer. The qualities you find attractive (and unattractive) in women suggest you would certainly be happier with a woman who's more like you.


    • No very strong opposites were detected, which suggests that you are most attracted to women who are very similar to you. This is good news since similar couples tend to stay together longer.
    Quirks you can tolerate
    The truth is that everyone is potentially "high maintenance." We all have our quirks and shortcomings. The key to long-term harmony is finding a woman who can tolerate (or maybe even enjoy) your "quirks," or the little personal oddities that make you unique. You seem okay with several common quirks that might come along with your "ideal" woman:


    • There will be days when you think she's simply "too happy" all the time. Doesn't anything get her down? Is she human?
    Downside of your "ideal"
    In addition to her quirks, your "ideal" personality type may have other qualities that are more frustrating or challenging to deal with. Under stress, her quirks can become serious "flaws." But remember, these quirks are the "flip side of the coin," or the extreme end of qualities you otherwise find appealing. So, be prepared if:


    • Because you're most attracted to women with balanced personalities, no troubling differences were noted. Nevertheless, remember that too much similarity can lead to conflict as well, especially when problems call for very different perspectives or actions.
    Deal breakers
    You seem ready to adapt to the good and frustrating qualities of the women you're looking for, but there are types of women you clearly do NOT like. Women's habits and attitudes you'd have a hard time putting up with include:


    • Your responses suggest that you are pretty accepting and tolerant of shortcomings. No major personality "deal breakers" or reasons to rule out potential dates were identified.
    Trade-offs you'll face


















    Good Qualities Challenging Qualities
    Tries to balance spending time with a few close friends and going out with a big group of friends. Given the demands of family, friends, and activities, it's hard to find time alone together.
    Tries to balance a creative and imaginative side, with "real world" pragmatics about what you can and cannot do. Promising ideas are often dropped if they don't succeed right away.
    Tries to balance an objective view of problems with compassion for the people and feelings involved. Competing drives from your rational vs. compassionate points of view can stand in the way of making decisions.
    Tries to be decisive, but still not rush into anything. How much attention is given to problems and how decisions get made seems unpredictable.



    Sex

    Romantic sex
    Good sex is important to you, but it's only one of many ways you connect emotionally with your partner. Whether it's sexual or simply an affectionate touch, you give and receive pleasure easily.

    Among men your age, your particular combination of sexual drive and interests is similar to about 1 in 10 men (9%).

    Is she sexually compatible?
    You're looking for someone who values the quality of sex over the quantity. Ideally, you'd like someone who is talented at keeping sex new, fun and exciting.

    What's ahead for you sexually?
    A good sexual match plays a key role in your "ideal" relationship. You've kept your "wild," sexual side in check, but with the right woman you could open up the floodgates and let your sexy ideas and temptations flow. If you can bring your natural creativity and imagination to the bedroom, your sex life will never be boring. You know what it's like to emotionally connect with someone and truly make love (vs. just having sex). It'll be hard (or impossible) to settle for anything less. Someone as loving and sensual as you should hold out for a woman who shares your passions.

    How you and your "ideal" partner compare

     

Comments (415)

Comments are closed.

Post a Comment